You have friends who won’t talk to you, you are too embarrassed to face the friends who will talk to you, your kids are being thrust into adult situations way too early, and your spouse is unrecognizable. You can’t sleep, you can’t concentrate at work, you think you are going crazy, and you don't see how you will ever feel "normal" again.
This is divorce and divorce is crap.
While your divorce does not have to entail an all-out war with your spouse, it is a conflict none-the-less that will have to be resolved. Usually, the conflict is within you. The combat is waged in your mind and in your heart. Divorce is spiritual. The energy surrounding your life is all out of whack, and frankly it sucks.
Know, however, that divorce is only temporary. You will not be going through it for the rest of your life. While there is chaos in the middle of the storm, the natural inclination of the world is to return to order. While your life seems unmanageable right now, the clouds will part and balance will return. While you feel unlovable for the things you have done or for that which was done to you, love will return. Your kids will survive, and if you love them well, they will love you back.
Just know that you are a champion. The fire will extinguish and the heat will have changed you for the better. There is greatness within you and you will discover it on the other side of your divorce. You have friends and family who love you unconditionally. Open yourself back up and enjoy life. It will get better.